"Without deviation progress is not possible."
"Heresy is only another word for freedom of thought."
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
"Over and over I marvel at the blessings of my life: Each year has grown better than the last."
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"Excellence is a continuous process and not an accident."
A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
How do we solve the ownership transfer issue? Well, all you need to get started is a mirror. Look into it. The first person that you see is the one responsible for your issues. Oh wait, that's you! It may sound brutal, but you, and you alone, must take responsibility for the predicaments that you find yourself in. I know - as stated previously, society has a ready made reason for every one of your shortcomings and this seemingly from birth psychological programming can be hard, if not seemingly impossible to overcome.
You got yourself into the mess your in and your going to have to get yourself out. Some would call this "accountability." We simply call it being responsible for what you create. If I think about this one hard enough, there is literally no situation that I have not been fully responsible for when it comes to my health and vitality. When I was in college, I willingly participated in drinking beers with my buddies - they never forced me. When I finally got hip to how terrible that was I quit and haven't drank since. There is now no situation that I can justify drinking in and no one will get me to bend on that one. Every time I have missed a training session in my life it was of my own doing - I left work late and got in a traffic jam, I stayed up too late studying and missed my alarm. Nobody to blame but little old me.
The road to radical honesty with yourself will be a bumpy one. But in the end, your success....or your failure will rest squarely on your shoulders, and in hindsight that's where you will want it to be.
"It takes a long time to become young."
Political Correctness be damned! Is it just us or has "passing the buck" become the new national pastime? The disturbing "its not your fault" trend has now even leaked into the fitness/wellness world. Plenty of health and wellness personnel stand at the ready to tell eager clients that the blame for their current condition lives everywhere but with them. The reason their overweight? It's their spouses fault of course! Don't feel like training today? That's because a co-worker "drained" you with their "negative energy." This type of new age "woo woo" is a phenomenon we like to refer to as the "transfer of ownership."
When a person falls in line with this type of thinking they initially feel great. After all, getting a free pass to eat pizza, not train, and place blame on other's for your perceived short-comings can be a stress reliever, especially when it comes from someone you are placing authority and trust in like a personal trainer, life coach (whatever that is) or nutritionist. The problem lies in the fact that the "woo woo" the client is lead to believe is incompatible with the real, physical world that they live in.
Let's say a person has a goal of losing weight (it should be body fat but whatever...). They can't seem to follow a sound nutritional strategy to save their life. Every time they go to work they fall off the nutritional wagon at lunchtime. The transfer of ownership method would say the problem lies in the client's co-workers, not in the fundamental fact that the decision on what to put in one's mouth is a personal one. I can't count the number of times I have seen people who are trying to be nutritional sound being force fed junk food by their less healthy counterparts......oh wait, that has never actually happened.....anywhere.....ever.
So what is this person to do? After all, if the conditions are less than perfect they cannot be expected to succeed right? The person in the example has "transferred ownership" of their food success to other people. "If only everyone in my office was exactly like me and ate nothing but salads I would be OK...." would be the battle cry. You can see how ridiculous and short sighted this methodology is. I can see it now - someone telling this person that the only way to be successful is to......quit their job of course! Find a new one where everything is to their liking and then they will be on their way. Incompatibility with the real world rears its head as this situation would never exist. No situation is perfect so the search for one with be fruitless and lead to more feelings of frustration and increased stress.
Check back tomorrow for part 2!
"Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it."
"Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living?"
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